As students work their way through the Ultimate Coach University Launch Workshop, one activity that we do is to create distinctions between the mental images of “coach” and “mentor.” While they are not completely distinct, the differences are telling. Here are a few of the characterizations of mentors:
- A mentor kicks your ass to do better.
- Mentors want you to understand what they know.
- Mentors push you until you fail.
- You want your mentor’s approval.
- Mentor’s want a mini-me.
- Mentors have their own agenda. It’s the reason you hooked up with them.
In contrast, coaches create a different type of relationship.
- Coaches want you to succeed in your own way on the way to your chosen goal.
- Coaches support you without judgment.
- Coaches stick to your agenda.
- Coaches don’t want you to fail.
- Coaches hold you accountable.
- Coaches give you honest feedback.
So what are you looking for: a coach or a mentor?