You know how to do everything that you want to do. If you have any doubts, you google a few things, read a few things, and fill in all of the details of what you need to know. By the time you are an adult, the gap between what you know and what you don’t know is pretty small and you can close it on just about any subject with a little effort.
What you haven’t figured out is how to make yourself do it. That’s why coaching matters. Here are three key ideas to explore this more.
Coaching asks the hard questions. Training may ask about what do you want and what you are willing to do to get there. When was the last time that a trainer asked questions like:
- What has prevented you from doing this before?
- What will prevent your old habits from slipping back in?
- What happened the last time you tried that?
- What’s going to be different this time?
In other words, a coach supports you in putting your focus on your mental state before you start to take action.
Coaching supports your perseverance. To truly change, you must build new habits and that requires consistent and persistent change. The changes that you make don’t have to be giant steps; they just have to move you in the direction of your new habit. Now imagine the scene where week after week you are paying your coach to listen to you say, “I didn’t do what I said that I would.” One of the biggest reasons people hire a coach is to have an accountability partner. Trainers don’t do that.
Coaching values success. The pain of saying you failed is worse than the risk of failure; the reward for telling your coach you succeeded is higher than the reward for doing nothing. The value of success is higher than the comfort of doing nothing and failing. You are in it for the long-term gain. When you work with a coach, you are in a low judgment zone. Your coach wants you to succeed on your terms and will support you on your journey.
There is a place for training. A combination of training and coaching are often the most successful approach within a company. The error is in not recognizing the differences between the two which results in not getting the best of either.