Kenneth Burke once said about humans that “Man is the symbol-using (symbol-making, symbol-misusing) animal.” His statement is probably the most accurate when we talk about time and how we use it. Here are three examples.
The opposite of life is not work. It’s easy to get upset about a lack of work-life balance. Unfortunately, the opposite of life is not work. It’s death. The opposite of work is non-work. Really, isn’t the choice among work, recreation, spiritual, community, personal wellbeing, etc.?
Balance is not a static state. We think about have work-life balance as if it were a set of weights and measures. Take some time from this side of the scale and put it on the other and then you’ve got balance. Unfortunately, time does not stand still. After all, time keeps moving on. The minute after you think you’ve achieved a state of balance, you lose it.
We don’t control time. Time continues to do what it does despite our best efforts to manage it. When we give up the futile effort to manage time and switch our focus to managing what we do with our time, then powerful shifts happen.
If we are really listening to Kenneth Burke, when we change our language we change our possibilities. For example:
- Pay attention to what you are doing. You can be so into the flow that time concerns go away.
- Think about time as flowing. What does balance mean to you now?
- Take a long-term perspective. How’s your balance over the course of a month? A year?
Changing our language is not an easy task. We’ve spent a lifetime creating these images and relationships in our heads. How will you start to be less concerned with balance?