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Weekend Love, November Seventh

Paperwork prison

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Some days, I tell myself this.  Please read Frank Sonnenberg’s article, Failing Doesn’t Make You a Failure.

Dan Rockwell makes some really insightful lists on Leadership (which is to be expected since his blog is titled, Leadership Freak.) Here is one of them on 10 Ways to Seize Leadership’s Greatest Opportunity.

As I sit here planning a quick getaway, this article from Rachel Henke really resonates well with me.  She raises some ideas worth contemplating when she writes about Designing Your Freedom Solution.

The question we often want answered: How to stay calm when you know you’ll be stressed.  Daniel Levitin talks about this on TED.  Click here if the video isn’t showing.

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Weekend Love, October Thirty-First

We share everything, even Halloween treats

We share everything, even Halloween treats

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Just about everyone I know is trying to find additional sales this time of year.  Karyn Greenstreet gives you some quick ideas when she writes about 5 Smart Tips to Re-engage Inactive Customers.

The problem might not be the people around you.  It might be your expectations about the people around you.  What will you do now?  Dominique Christine explores this thought in her article on What to Do When You’re Feeling Disappointed in Your Relationship.

Seth Godin is one of the most concise writers I’ve encountered.  He talks about Entitlement vs. Worthiness and asks you to think about Halloween candy.  How this man’s mind works I’ll never know.

This is from the way back machine.  From top to bottom, the choice is yours.  We don’t always recognize that until it gets spelled out for us like Frank Sonnenberg did in his article, The Choice is Yours.

Halloween wouldn’t be complete without at least one article prompted by the holiday.  This one is basically pictures, so check out 26 Hauntingly Beautiful Photos of Abandoned Homes Across America, some of which might just be haunted.

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3 Absolutely Critical Tools for Goal Achievement

iStock_000024896784I think we all, at some point, look for that silver bullet solution.  You know the one makes all your problems melt away, everyone agree with you, and produces 110% of your wishes.  We all know it’s not there, but we still keep looking.

You keep looking for it because you think that, along the way, you will come across the next best thing to a silver bullet.  The solution is actually simpler to find but harder to execute.  Here are the three tools.

ME. Yes, you are the core of your answer.

  • What is it you want?
  • When you take away the pressure from friends, family, and business associates, what would make you happy?

The more you focus on this, the more likely you are to find it.  Alice in Wonderland’s Cheshire cat said to her that “If you don’t know where you are going, any old road will do.”  The opposite of those prophetic words is your answer.

MYSELF.  You are also the second most important tool for goal achievement.

  • What is it that you are uniquely qualified to do?
  • How will you get rid of everything else?

You can get distracted like a dog chasing squirrels.  You don’t mean to, but you end up spending your time on things that others can do as well (or better) than you.  Stop right there.  There is a piece of your goal that is yours and yours alone to do.  Everything else is just stuff.

AND I.  If you are the real tool to achieve your goal, admit it.  Take credit for your successes and take the blame for your failures.  Anything less is giving credit to random forces in your life.  You will never truly appreciate your success if you think it’s due to random luck.

If you are not sure of your answers, you might want to find a mentor or a coach.  Get someone to ask the hard and uncomfortable questions that will make you truly appreciate me, myself, and I.

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Weekend Love, October Seventeenth

A group of people in the shape of a collar shirt, a flash mob.

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Who wouldn’t like to get more done when working?  Torri Myler offers some hope with 6 Tips for Developing Stellar Productivity at Work.  Psst–she also mentions some great apps to help you in your quest that include a team tool and project management tool.

I sometime wake up and discover that I’ve gone back to a bad habit.  I sign and start over working on it.  Leo Babuta recently made a similar discover about one of his habits.  He write about I’m Returning to Single-Tasking. I really like the simple and yet profound steps to solve his issue.

When we were leading a direct sales team we occasionally talked about “Dressing for Success.”  Tom Pandola has a new take on that topic.  It’s not quite what you expect.  Please read Are Your Employees Dressed for Success?

What is life coaching?  This quick video from the International Coach Federation helps explain. Click here if the video isn’t showing.


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Weekend Love, September Twenty-Fifth

iStock_000004751590Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Sometimes we don’t see ourselves as others see us (you think?).  Madeline Homan Blanchard offers some insights in My Boss Called Me a Drama Queen: Ask Madeleine.

Ever want to do something and couldn’t figure out what?  Life coach Jessica Sweet offers 5 Fun Things To Do When You Are Bored With Life.

I knew it all along: Babies Are Trying to Manipulate You Into Smiling at Them.

After watching many of the political arguments playing right now (am I being cynical?) I found it very refreshing that there is an organization devoted to helping leaders understand what it means to be truthful.  How are you doing on yours?  Lee Ellis, Founder & President of Leadership Freedom LLC, has his say when he writes On Leadership and Telling the Truth: Three Foundational Ways to Avoid Lying.

I spend a lot of time as a coach helping supporting people who want happiness in one form or another.  I couldn’t stop myself from reading this article written by Sherry Amatenstein on Vox news this last week: Everyone wants to be happy. Almost everyone is going about it wrong.

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Do What I Do

do what you tellI have had the opportunity to observe many leaders in business. When I think back, there are a couple of people who commanded leadership through their person, not their position.  One of them is Gaylin Olson.  I always considered him as an authentic leader.  He understood people. He cast vision.  He built alignment to goals. He was, and still is a fun loving, humble man.

Authentic leadership begins with doing the things that you ask others to do.  I’m sure you’ve heard the old expression, “Do what I say, not what I do.”  That won’t get you very far.

If you don’t do what you tell others to do, then you appear to be a hypocrite, arrogant, or inauthentic.  You’ll lose respect and with it your credibility to attract and keep people on your team.

What can you do?  Here’s how to get started.

Be on time.  While you may think your activities are more important, that doesn’t cut it with your team.  Look through their eyes.  When you are late, you are saying (with your actions) that they are less important than you.  If you are going to be late, let them know.  Be respectful.

Keep your commitments or change them. If you promise to follow up, do it. Or change your commitment by asking the person to follow up with you.  If you commit to sending material, doing a meeting, keep that commitment or change it.

Be professional.  Do you really want to be known for your tantrums?  How about getting a reputation as having a short fuse and explosive temper?

  • Don’t swear
  • Don’t raise your voice
  • Be polite. Say please, thank you, and hold doors for people.
  • Correct in private. When I first started in direct sales, I was given some advice that I’ve tried to follow religiously.  You praise in public and fix in private.  No one likes to be demeaned in front of the group.

Take responsibility.  If something goes wrong under your direction, admit your mistake. There’s some very good research to indicate that accepting responsibility is the first step to improvement.  It also let’s your team know that it’s okay to make mistakes and that you’ll work to fix things.  Don’t be afraid to apologize.  Saving the relationship may be more important that refusing responsibility for failure.

Share the successes.  Really, you didn’t do it all on your own.  When the accolades come, you need to share them.  Catch your team doing things right and tell them that.  Share the glory in both public and private.

You may be the leader.  When you act like one, your people will keep you there.

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Free Will

Viktor Frankl, Free Will

A human being is not one thing among others; things determine each other, but man is ultimately self-determining.  What he becomes—within the limits of endowment and environment—he has made out of himself.

~Viktor Frankl

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

~Viktor Frankl

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

~Viktor Frankl

Viktor Frankl was not an American.  He was a survivor of the holocaust.  His book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is considered by the Library of Congress as one of the ten most influential books in America.  He understood independence and freedom.

When we talk about “unalienable rights” we are speaking of our right to choose.

Whether high born or low we have this right.

Regardless of color or sex or creed, we have this right.

We may not be able to choose our circumstances, but we can choose how we will react to them.

Happy Independence Day!

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Weekend Love, June Twenty-Seventh

iStock_000001746407Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Here’s an interesting survey result from Gallup:  89% of employers believe that workers leave their company for more money. However, as it turns out, only a mere 12% of people actually do leave for that reason.  Carly Sec provides some key insights on employee motivation in 3 Simple Ways to Inspire Employee Motivation [Infographic].

As a coach, it’s sometimes difficult for people to understand what I do.  Their thoughts range from mentoring to therapy and it’s hard to convince them that these are not coaching.  Madeline Blanchard weighs in on this topic in her short article, What Coaching Really Is.

I go on my annual fishing trip in a month.  Michael Hyatt thinks I need to do more.  Who am I to disagree?  Read 9 Reasons You Need More Fishing In Your Life.

Before you take your summer vacation, you might want to spend an hour following Karyn Greenstreet’s advice on 7 Steps to Create Your Autumn Marketing Plan This Summer.

Just for grins:  Scientists aren’t quite sure why, but Laughing Helps You Learn, Babies (and Scientists) Say.  Can I at least get a smile over the opening line?

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Weekend Love, May Twenty-Second

Memorial DayWith a holiday weekend coming, I thought I’d do this post a day early.  Enjoy your three-day weekend and take a little time to honor those who died serving in the armed forces.

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Most of us build relationships as we go.  What would happen if you planned it a bit more?  Never mind, you probably can’t.  You can be open to learning and improving.  Sarah Landrum writes about 10 Things I Had to Learn in Order to Create a Happier Relationship.

Coaches spend a lot of time thinking and talking about transitions.  It’s what we do.  We tend to be a bit jaded about them because we do talk about them so much.  Bonnie Bell’s article about Transitions: Big Ones, Small Ones, and Everything in Between is a great look at that topic.  I’ve read it twice and flagged it so I can look at it again.

Is it time to move on?  Joseph Irvin provides five tests when he lets you know This is Why I Quit My Job.

From the archives:  Why Study Philosophy? ‘To Challenge Your Own Point of View’.  It’s not a blog post.  It’s an interview with Rebecca Goldstein in The Atlantic about not thinking like a scientist.  It’s about understanding your compassion and yourself. (P.S. It’s also about Google and what they are missing.)


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Three Keys to Extraordinary Results

performanceEver meet one of those people who always kick themselves when things don’t go right?  I have one as a client.  I finally asked him to write his thoughts on some items.  I won’t claim credit for creating these three keys.  The honors for this list go to a coaching client who was searching for “extraordinary results.” He’s a mental bruiser.  He says things as straight forward as he can.  Here are the three keys.

Talking about what went wrong is not going to make things go right.  You only deliver results by taking actions that will lead to the results you want.

Do not deviate.  Pick your goal.  Don’t waver.  Don’t change.  Don’t make excuses for inaction.  Just go.

  • What’s the result you’d kill for?
  • How does this result align with my mission?
  • How do my methods align with my values?
  • Who is on my side?

Everything I miss or get is my fault.  Accept all the blame you can.  When you give excuses or blame others, you are giving them the power to dictate your results.  Once you accept that it’s all your fault, you can do something about it.  Anything less gives control to luck, circumstance, and other people. This is an incredibly freeing statement!  You no longer have to shame, blame or justify. You just move forward.

  • How do I recover from my mistake?
  • How did I miss the signs?
  • What do I need to change?
  • How will I make sure the results are going to be different?

Get someone to hold you accountable.  Don’t just keep it in your head.  Find someone to talk with about goal.  The words you say will tell a lot about what’s really going on.  And don’t pick a softy.  Find someone to ask the hard questions and not just agree with you when you want out because life gets tough.

  • What are you hearing?
  • Where am I off track?
  • Here’s what I want you to ask me.
  • Thank you.

The guidelines are tough.  And they will lead to incredible results. What are your rules for making sure that you will get your results?

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