I think we all, at some point, look for that silver bullet solution. You know the one makes all your problems melt away, everyone agree with you, and produces 110% of your wishes. We all know it’s not there, but we still keep looking.
You keep looking for it because you think that, along the way, you will come across the next best thing to a silver bullet. The solution is actually simpler to find but harder to execute. Here are the three tools.
ME. Yes, you are the core of your answer.
- What is it you want?
- When you take away the pressure from friends, family, and business associates, what would make you happy?
The more you focus on this, the more likely you are to find it. Alice in Wonderland’s Cheshire cat said to her that “If you don’t know where you are going, any old road will do.” The opposite of those prophetic words is your answer.
MYSELF. You are also the second most important tool for goal achievement.
- What is it that you are uniquely qualified to do?
- How will you get rid of everything else?
You can get distracted like a dog chasing squirrels. You don’t mean to, but you end up spending your time on things that others can do as well (or better) than you. Stop right there. There is a piece of your goal that is yours and yours alone to do. Everything else is just stuff.
AND I. If you are the real tool to achieve your goal, admit it. Take credit for your successes and take the blame for your failures. Anything less is giving credit to random forces in your life. You will never truly appreciate your success if you think it’s due to random luck.
If you are not sure of your answers, you might want to find a mentor or a coach. Get someone to ask the hard and uncomfortable questions that will make you truly appreciate me, myself, and I.