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Weekend Love, November Fourteenth.

iStock_000028624632Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

I call it “How to think Outside the Box.”  Dan Rockwell calls it, How to Eliminate Stupid Rules. I like his title.

Susan Cramm writes a very heady article about the differences between scarcity minded leaders and abundance minded leaders.  You’ll want to take some time to absorb her insights in Wanted: Leaders Who Use Their Powers for Good.

When most people think about life coaches, they get a picture in their head of somebody like Will Smith in Hitch.  The truth is, it’s more like this. Click here if the video isn’t showing.

As I think ahead to gorging myself over Thanksgiving, I have enough guilt that this article by Mark Sisson makes a lot of sense.  Give up on setting goals.  Go for immediate gratification. This is a quick read on exercise called  Why Getting Fit Isn’t the Best Exercise Motivation (and 10 Better Reasons to Move Today).

Most people won’t care about this, but I’m stuck on food things these days.  Maybe I’ve just adopted Texas.  Read about Chipotle Cranberry Sausage Balls.

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Weekend Love, October Thirty-First

We share everything, even Halloween treats

We share everything, even Halloween treats

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Just about everyone I know is trying to find additional sales this time of year.  Karyn Greenstreet gives you some quick ideas when she writes about 5 Smart Tips to Re-engage Inactive Customers.

The problem might not be the people around you.  It might be your expectations about the people around you.  What will you do now?  Dominique Christine explores this thought in her article on What to Do When You’re Feeling Disappointed in Your Relationship.

Seth Godin is one of the most concise writers I’ve encountered.  He talks about Entitlement vs. Worthiness and asks you to think about Halloween candy.  How this man’s mind works I’ll never know.

This is from the way back machine.  From top to bottom, the choice is yours.  We don’t always recognize that until it gets spelled out for us like Frank Sonnenberg did in his article, The Choice is Yours.

Halloween wouldn’t be complete without at least one article prompted by the holiday.  This one is basically pictures, so check out 26 Hauntingly Beautiful Photos of Abandoned Homes Across America, some of which might just be haunted.

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10 Yogi Berra-isms for Coaches

yogiberraYogi Berra, one of the greatest baseball players of all time, passed away in September.  His feats as a baseball player and coach are legendary.  He still holds some records in major league baseball as a player and a coach.  He was even the inspiration for a long running cartoon character, Yogi Bear (although Hanna-Barbera denied the association for a long time).

He was also well-known for his ability to coin a phrase.  Many of his sayings have become long running punch lines.  Here are ten that offer good advice for coaches.

On the importance of deciding and acting:  When you come to a fork in the road, take it.

On driving to the end:  It ain’t over till it’s over.

On framing and reframing:  Slump? I ain’t in no slump… I just ain’t hitting.

On having goals:  You’ve got to be very careful if you don’t know where you are going, because you might not get there.

On being totally committed:  Baseball is 90% mental and the other half is physical.

On action orientation:  How can you think and hit at the same time?

On listening:  It was impossible to get a conversation going, everybody was talking too much.

On coaching silence:  You can observe a lot by just watching.

On owning the results:  I never blame myself when I’m not hitting. I just blame the bat and if it keeps up, I change bats. After all, if I know it isn’t my fault that I’m not hitting, how can I get mad at myself?

On being in the flow:  You don’t have to swing hard to hit a home run. If you got the timing, it’ll go.

Bonus:  (It fits every occasion)  If the world were perfect, it wouldn’t be.

May he long be remembered.

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Weekend Love, June Twenty-Seventh

iStock_000001746407Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Here’s an interesting survey result from Gallup:  89% of employers believe that workers leave their company for more money. However, as it turns out, only a mere 12% of people actually do leave for that reason.  Carly Sec provides some key insights on employee motivation in 3 Simple Ways to Inspire Employee Motivation [Infographic].

As a coach, it’s sometimes difficult for people to understand what I do.  Their thoughts range from mentoring to therapy and it’s hard to convince them that these are not coaching.  Madeline Blanchard weighs in on this topic in her short article, What Coaching Really Is.

I go on my annual fishing trip in a month.  Michael Hyatt thinks I need to do more.  Who am I to disagree?  Read 9 Reasons You Need More Fishing In Your Life.

Before you take your summer vacation, you might want to spend an hour following Karyn Greenstreet’s advice on 7 Steps to Create Your Autumn Marketing Plan This Summer.

Just for grins:  Scientists aren’t quite sure why, but Laughing Helps You Learn, Babies (and Scientists) Say.  Can I at least get a smile over the opening line?

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Weekend Love, May Second

Details of the climbers hard on a wall

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently.  This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content.  Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file that hits my mood.

Sometimes I come across an article that makes me reflect on “I wish I knew that when I was starting.”  I still find them good reminders.  Amy Gallo’s interview of Susan David is one of those as they talk about Overcoming the Toughest Common Coaching Challenges.

I love reading on self development, but, some of this stuff really deserves a red flag for unsportsmanlike conduct.  Tara Schiller agrees in her article on 4 Taboo Myths Of Self Development.

I thought about this article for David Witt as I was working on my blog post for Monday (no spoiler).  He has some 30 second insights into Leadership Transparency: 3 Ways to Be More Open with Your People.

Do you want to develop the habit of thinking and acting more strategically on a daily basis?  The Center for Management and Organizational Effectiveness has a three minute, must-watch video for you on Applying Strategic Thinking. [Click the link if you can’t see the video below.]

 

 

 

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Creating Your Summer Game Plan

Coaching summer plansIs it too early to be thinking about summer plans on tax day?  I had a coaching call this week with an entrepreneur and that’s what she wanted to discuss. For her, June was a major month for convention, travel, vacation, and kid-out-of-school-time and she wanted to be prepared.   I had my AHA before the call was done:  If you are an entrepreneur, it’s not too soon!  While we usually think about an intensive work time before and after a summer break, the entrepreneur has more to do than just the immediate tasks.

Whether you are in direct sales or some other business, as an entrepreneur your planning needs to go beyond a two-or three week period.  Think about direct selling, for example.  The people who join your team now will really be hitting their sales stride around late June.  The work you do in the summer will set the stage for your fall selling season.  Since you are in business for yourself, you need to constantly engage in high level planning.

During our coaching call, six core questions absorbed most of our time.  I wanted to share them with you as you start thinking about your summer.

  1. How up to date is your calendar? She was like most of us.  Her schedule was very complete for April, mainly complete for May and June, and then sketchy after that.  While June was her key month, she came to the realization she needed to be thinking about work for post-June.
  2. What business goals do you want to accomplish this summer? She had a clear vision.  Many of her summer goals center on building business relationships through follow-up from the conventions.
  3. What are the most important things you need to do now to prepare for June? This turned out to be a very important question. As she talked through the answer, her accomplishments in the next two weeks will make a lot of difference.
  4. What do your stakeholders need to know? While she thought a lot about his business, she hadn’t gotten to thinking about what her clients expectations are going from now to the end of June.  This will be the topic of several conversations between her and her clients before the summer.
  5. What do your contractors need to know? Like the previous question, she hadn’t talked with her support team and needed to bring them into the loop on her plans and work requirements for the next few months.
  6. What do you need to do to fill your fall pipeline? She realized that with a time lag of 90-120 days from starting the sales process to her first payment, her October-November business depends on starting in July. This is a new awareness and shifts her July business focus a bit.

How about you?  Are you thinking at a high level about your summer and fall business?  If you were, how will things change?

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Weekend Love, April Fourth

camoflage hugHere are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently.  Most will be a handful of links to tools or great content.  Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file that hits my mood.

Four questions to make you go “hmmn.”  The title of Karyn Greenstreet’s article says it all: How Will You Know That You’re Successful, When You Don’t Know What It Looks Like?

At its simplest, coaching is about questions and answers.  Questions that make us think and answers that lead us forward.  Racheal Govender explains Why Coaching works.

Have anything in self-storage?  How about a piece of you?  David Emerald and Donna Zajonc, MCC write about Coming Out of Self Storage.

Best quotation of the week comes from Mark Sisson, “At its best, self-control doesn’t revolve around deprivation, denial or chastising but clarity, intention, and attunement.”  This powerful idea is explored in Self-Control: The Ultimate Exercise in Freedom.

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Weekend Love, March Seventh

Link loveHere are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently.  Most will be a handful of links to tools or great content.  Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file that hits my mood.

Coaches try to avoid giving advice, and sometimes that leaves you and your client feeling stalemated or helpless.  Here are Ten Little Tips to Boost Your Coaching Prowess.

Five Ways to become more Self Aware.  The title says it all.

Trust is one of the key pieces in building coaching and business relationships.  What do you do after you’ve messed it up?  Randy Conly offers 6 Steps to Rebuild Broken Trust.

What would your do-over look like?  Here’s what Joel Peterson says about what he’d do differently.

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Weekend Love, February Twenty Eighth

Link loveHere are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently.  Most will be a handful of links to tools or great content.  Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file that hits my mood.

Some of the best advice ever comes from Seth Godin this week when he talks about The Trolls Inside.

Does your elevator pitch stink?  Could you at least make yourself sound normal when you give it?  The HBR has some concrete advice for you in their article on Your Elevator Pitch Needs an Elevator Pitch.

My new favorite blogger is Frank Sonnenberg.  He writes about character, personal values, and personal responsibility.  He makes you want to slow down and absorb each word topic over a nice cup of coffee first thing in the morning.  Take this week’s offering called 13 Ways to Spot a Lie.

Think you are coaching?  Want to find out?  Dan McCarthy writes How Managers Can Become Awesome Coaches.  It’s a standalone article, but there are lots of links to other articles if a particular piece strikes your fancy.

Once you become a coach, who makes sure you are doing your job?  Who can help you do it better?  An emerging role, coaching supervisor, may be the answer for you. You can read about it in The Case for Coaching Supervision.

The visual that puts it all in perspective.  http://hereistoday.com/

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The Medium Changes the Coaching Message

DeathtoStock_SlowDown3The medium (vocal, visual, textual) that you use for coaching affects what can occur during the coaching and after.  Nearly five decades ago, Marshall McLuhan coined the phrase. “The medium is the message.”  While it seemed somewhat revolutionary at the time, we’ve all come to recognize the importance of the medium as an influence on the shape of the message.  Any user of Twitter, Instagram or Facebook could hardly disagree.  What we don’t often realize is that the statement is equally true about the medium in which we coach.

Most of my coaching is done on the telephone.  Thoughts can sometimes wander through the exchange and the client who is working very creatively may be very difficult to follow.  I can tell when the client and I are feeling the same way when I ask a question like, “So where are you going with this?” and the client responds by saying that “That’s a good question.”

Recently, I challenged a client to use a different medium and the clarity was astounding.  Elizabeth, my client, was sorting out her thoughts on work, values, and what she really wanted in five years.  We’ve talked about this before and while Elizabeth was moving forward, I challenged her to go away to write answers to four questions:

  • What do I really, really want?
  • Is what I’m doing getting it for me?
  • What do I need to stop doing?
  • What do I need to start doing?

For Elizabeth, writing rather than talking about these topics made an enormous difference.

Thoughts that were swirling in her head had to be made into sentence. Thoughts are seldom complete and very seldom in sentence form. As thoughts became sentences, Elizabeth’s thinking clarified.

Spoken justifications may sound reasonable–until put on paper.   Elizabeth was more willing to throw a foul flag when she saw some of her thinking in writing. In hindsight, she called saw some of her excuses “lame or half-formulated.”

Progress is still at a very measured pace.  However, Elizabeth is clear on the direction she wants to go and is very steadily moving to her goal.

How can you switch medium with your client?

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