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Weekend Love, October Ten

Look at your leadershipHere are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Want to solve problems or fix them?  Dan Rockwell explores the difference in his article, 10 Ways to Solve Real Problems.

What do you do when you notice others struggling?  Karyn Greenstreet gives some quick lists to recognize struggles and how you can help someone get moving.  Her article is on How to Help a Floundering Member.

Speaking of mistakes, Frank Sonnenberg makes a great case for changing your response to personal mistakes.  His article, The Biggest Mistake, Ever! would be a mistake to not read.

I’ve sometimes found that some people who say they want a coach really don’t.  Joanne Maynard asks a great question in her article Are You Coachable? 3 Questions to Consider.

BONUS:  Want the perfect movie for a night in?  Five Thirty Eight’s survey gives the top 25 all-time choices.  The male-female differences will make you smile.  Read Walt Hickey’s article, The 25 Most Rewatchable Movies of All Time.


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Weekend Love, September Fifth

iStock_000042621008Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

When confronted with change, our first reactions range from head-in-the-sand to raging battles.  Susan Fowler asks three of the best questions for a situation like that when she writes about Thriving in the Midst of Change: Ask 3 Questions.

The opening paragraph starts, “Fascinating leaders ask questions. The rest are dullards.”  How can you not want to read the article?  Join Dan Rockwell as he answers that age-old question about How to Become a Fascinating Leader.

I know that I am not the poster child for exercise and fitness.  I do that stuff, and hate it.  Mark Sisson finally explains why.  If you are like me, you can read how you got to this state and ways to get out of it in his article on Why Getting Fit Isn’t the Best Exercise Motivation (and 10 Better Reasons to Move Today).

Bonus Video:  Brian Tracy and his daughter, Christina, discuss his new book , Find your Balance Point.  It’s a great discussion about the stuff we know but don’t do on topics like harmony, being grounded, and working from your passion.  Enjoy The Secret to Finding Balance in Your Life.

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Free Will

Viktor Frankl, Free Will

A human being is not one thing among others; things determine each other, but man is ultimately self-determining.  What he becomes—within the limits of endowment and environment—he has made out of himself.

~Viktor Frankl

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

~Viktor Frankl

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

~Viktor Frankl

Viktor Frankl was not an American.  He was a survivor of the holocaust.  His book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is considered by the Library of Congress as one of the ten most influential books in America.  He understood independence and freedom.

When we talk about “unalienable rights” we are speaking of our right to choose.

Whether high born or low we have this right.

Regardless of color or sex or creed, we have this right.

We may not be able to choose our circumstances, but we can choose how we will react to them.

Happy Independence Day!

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Weekend Love, May Twenty-Second

Memorial DayWith a holiday weekend coming, I thought I’d do this post a day early.  Enjoy your three-day weekend and take a little time to honor those who died serving in the armed forces.

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Most of us build relationships as we go.  What would happen if you planned it a bit more?  Never mind, you probably can’t.  You can be open to learning and improving.  Sarah Landrum writes about 10 Things I Had to Learn in Order to Create a Happier Relationship.

Coaches spend a lot of time thinking and talking about transitions.  It’s what we do.  We tend to be a bit jaded about them because we do talk about them so much.  Bonnie Bell’s article about Transitions: Big Ones, Small Ones, and Everything in Between is a great look at that topic.  I’ve read it twice and flagged it so I can look at it again.

Is it time to move on?  Joseph Irvin provides five tests when he lets you know This is Why I Quit My Job.

From the archives:  Why Study Philosophy? ‘To Challenge Your Own Point of View’.  It’s not a blog post.  It’s an interview with Rebecca Goldstein in The Atlantic about not thinking like a scientist.  It’s about understanding your compassion and yourself. (P.S. It’s also about Google and what they are missing.)


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Creating Your Summer Game Plan

Coaching summer plansIs it too early to be thinking about summer plans on tax day?  I had a coaching call this week with an entrepreneur and that’s what she wanted to discuss. For her, June was a major month for convention, travel, vacation, and kid-out-of-school-time and she wanted to be prepared.   I had my AHA before the call was done:  If you are an entrepreneur, it’s not too soon!  While we usually think about an intensive work time before and after a summer break, the entrepreneur has more to do than just the immediate tasks.

Whether you are in direct sales or some other business, as an entrepreneur your planning needs to go beyond a two-or three week period.  Think about direct selling, for example.  The people who join your team now will really be hitting their sales stride around late June.  The work you do in the summer will set the stage for your fall selling season.  Since you are in business for yourself, you need to constantly engage in high level planning.

During our coaching call, six core questions absorbed most of our time.  I wanted to share them with you as you start thinking about your summer.

  1. How up to date is your calendar? She was like most of us.  Her schedule was very complete for April, mainly complete for May and June, and then sketchy after that.  While June was her key month, she came to the realization she needed to be thinking about work for post-June.
  2. What business goals do you want to accomplish this summer? She had a clear vision.  Many of her summer goals center on building business relationships through follow-up from the conventions.
  3. What are the most important things you need to do now to prepare for June? This turned out to be a very important question. As she talked through the answer, her accomplishments in the next two weeks will make a lot of difference.
  4. What do your stakeholders need to know? While she thought a lot about his business, she hadn’t gotten to thinking about what her clients expectations are going from now to the end of June.  This will be the topic of several conversations between her and her clients before the summer.
  5. What do your contractors need to know? Like the previous question, she hadn’t talked with her support team and needed to bring them into the loop on her plans and work requirements for the next few months.
  6. What do you need to do to fill your fall pipeline? She realized that with a time lag of 90-120 days from starting the sales process to her first payment, her October-November business depends on starting in July. This is a new awareness and shifts her July business focus a bit.

How about you?  Are you thinking at a high level about your summer and fall business?  If you were, how will things change?

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15 Questions to Describe Your Leadership

Look at your leadershipWe seldom plan to be exactly where we find ourselves.  Direct sales leaders are a good example.  They get there by accident.  Having been through the process, I know how it works. You start out looking for a part time income, talk with a friend who wanted something similar which led to them joining and (before you could think about it), got pushed into a leadership role.  You never really planned to become a leader.  You just looked up one day and there you were.

You started out to solve a problem, didn’t have 20-20 foresight on where it would lead you, and ended up where you are now.  You are developing an awareness of “where you are” versus “where you want to be.”  Before diving back into your business, you need to take a little time in your “step back” to see if where are you are is where you want to be.  Here are fifteen questions to support you in your step back.

  1. What is the mission of your business?
  2. Alternatively, ask, “What calling does my business serve?”
  3. What are the core values of your business?
  4. What examples of your values in action can you point to?
  5. How does your business add to the value in your life?
  6. How will your vision guide your business?
  7. How are you being the leader you would follow?
  8. How will you align your team to your vision?
  9. How will your team describe your leadership style?
  10. How are you living your values in your business?
  11. Alternatively, ask, “How are you leading by example?
  12. How are you embracing your team members who exemplify the team’s values?
  13. How do you want your business remembered?
  14. Alternatively, ask, “What’s my legacy?”
  15. When you leave your business, what will you be leaving behind?

When we get involved with our business, we often get so buried in the “what” of the business we forget to focus on the “why” and “how.”  The former is important, but it’s the latter that is the true measure of your leadership.  You don’t attract people and build a team without a compelling character.  By doing a step back you have the opportunity to examine your business character and become deliberate in creating your future.

If you have a thought partner, this exercise goes much better.  Pick the questions that make you think the most, write a short answer, and have your thought partner react.  You’ll find out very quickly if you are honest with yourself and making sense.

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Weekend Love, March Twenty-Eighth

camoflage hugHere are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently.  Most will be a handful of links to tools or great content.  Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file that hits my mood.

Are you really trying hard?  Naomi Dunford wants you to really look at the playback when she writes, What if You tried Really Hard?

Read this if you’ve ever used the phrase “stay at home mom.”  Jenny Acuff writes about 2 reasons I hate the phrase “Just a Stay at Home Mom.”

When is the last time you asked about what is meaningful in life?  Marshall Goldsmith, considered one of the top thinkers in the world, talks about six things in his YouTube video.

Special for the Week:  Dewitt Jones has a mission to “Celebrate What’s Right with the World.”  As a photographer for National Geographic he has done that for years.  Here are three short (20 image) collections in pdf documents around three themes of sunrises, children, and pets.

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Monday Morning Focus

Monday morning mindsetHow does Monday morning start differently from every other morning for you?

Are you already up to a full run? Contemplating the week? Moaning about all you have to get done before you get to the satisfying work?

Your answers say a lot about you and what’s really going to happen.  You have created your week.

Is it what you want?  The great news is that you get a do-over every Monday.  In fact, you get a new start whenever you want.

When Monday is in your head, you get to own every piece of it.  Everyday.

Friends, lovers, accountability partners and coaches are all people who can support you in remembering this.  Who will you turn to?

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Weekend Love, February Twenty Eighth

Link loveHere are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently.  Most will be a handful of links to tools or great content.  Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file that hits my mood.

Some of the best advice ever comes from Seth Godin this week when he talks about The Trolls Inside.

Does your elevator pitch stink?  Could you at least make yourself sound normal when you give it?  The HBR has some concrete advice for you in their article on Your Elevator Pitch Needs an Elevator Pitch.

My new favorite blogger is Frank Sonnenberg.  He writes about character, personal values, and personal responsibility.  He makes you want to slow down and absorb each word topic over a nice cup of coffee first thing in the morning.  Take this week’s offering called 13 Ways to Spot a Lie.

Think you are coaching?  Want to find out?  Dan McCarthy writes How Managers Can Become Awesome Coaches.  It’s a standalone article, but there are lots of links to other articles if a particular piece strikes your fancy.

Once you become a coach, who makes sure you are doing your job?  Who can help you do it better?  An emerging role, coaching supervisor, may be the answer for you. You can read about it in The Case for Coaching Supervision.

The visual that puts it all in perspective.

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Gratitude at the Academy Awards

Trophy_OscarIn the coaching world, gratitude is one of those key concepts that show up consistently.  When the client figures out what they do and what those around them are responsible for accomplishing, then gratitude shows up.  When you are grateful, you recognize the importance of the people around you in your accomplishments.

Gratitude is often linked with celebrations.  You accomplish something and want to show gratitude to those around you for their part.  And that leads me to the Academy Awards.

How much genuine gratitude is showing up?

When an artist says, “I want to thank the Academy for bestowing this honor” do you get a sense they are grateful.

When an artist says, “I want to thank Bob, Carol, Ted, and Alice.  And I can’t forget my mom and dad” do you think the list of people feel appreciated?

True gratitude and appreciate has two parts: The Who and the What.  So when you hear real gratitude, it sound something like this:

  • I want to thank my wife and children, for loving me when I wasn’t very lovable in the middle of this project.
  • I want to thank Jim, who fought me every step of the way and wouldn’t let me settle for second best.
  • I want to thank the pioneers who wouldn’t give up when we faced challenges on this film and found ways to get things done that have never been done before.

What will you do this week to express genuine gratitude?  Will you look someone in the eye and thank them?  If you can’t do it face-to-face, then consider a phone call, email, text, or even a written note.


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