The first umpire says (matter-of-factly), “The pitcher pitches. If he throws a strike, I call it a strike. If he throws a ball, I call it a ball.”
Throwing fuel on the argument’s fire, the second umpire says, “I just call them as I see them. If it looks like a strike, that’s what I call it. If it looks like a ball, then I call it a ball.”
The third umpire puffs up his chest and ends it all. “It ain’t nothing until I call it.”
How do your clients express their view of the world in their language?
Is their world out there and their job is to reflect reality?
Maybe they realize that their mental state plays a role and their role is to select the reality.
OR, maybe your client wants to hide the reality that others see and play a role to deflect it through their language.
What is your role as a coach in working with your client’s reality as it shows up in their language?
As coaches, we often see our role as supporting our clients in seeing alternatives. How will you do that if your client wants to hide from the reality you want them to see?
When we treat our words as simple vehicles to describe what’s what, we give up on the richness of our surroundings. And in that richness are the grounds for the best coaching.
How will you coach your client on their use of language to reflect, select, or deflect reality?