We respect those who finish. A recent Seth Godin blog reminded me of this. Seth wrote about The Red Lantern, which is the Iditarod reward that goes to the last person to finish the race. The lantern is the reward for those who push through to the end. The Iditarod has found a way to recognize the value of hanging in to the finish.
As a coach, I’ve always struggled with finding the right balance for my clients between finishing what they start and moving on to a different goal. Here are 19 key questions to sort through what is often a mixed motive situation:
- On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is it to you to hit this goal?
- Are you being driven by your courage or bravado?
- How do the costs and benefits look to you at this point?
- How do you feel about cutting your losses?
- What’s the win if you redirect your goal now?
- What’s the loss?
- How will you regain your sunk costs?
- What will you do to forgive yourself for stopping?
- How will you reward yourself for finishing?
- What’s changed?
- What hasn’t changed?
- Are you being internally or externally motivated right now?
- How would you feel if it was just you?
- How would you feel if you influenced others to do the same thing?
- What would _____________ tell you to do? [Superman? Batman? Your mother?]
- What’s your gut reaction right now?
- What would happen if you put off deciding for 24 hours?
- How would you decide right now?
- If you couldn’t fail, what would you do?
The race is not always to the swift. For Aesop, slow and steady wins the race. As coaches, we cannot decide on the right course of action for our clients. Even more fundamentally, we need to do our best to avoid influencing their decision.
Think of a recent situation where you were coaching in a mixed motive situation. What’s the question you would add to this list?