I’m sure it’s a common complaint among children that they are not treated right. I remember protesting to my mother when I was a very young boy about “You never let me ___________ . When are you going to treat me like a _________ .” (Fill in the blanks. I said it a lot.) Her answer was always the same. “When you start acting like a ______ , I’ll start treating you like a __________ .” That’s still great advice today. I want to give that same advice to new coaches. They want to know how to get started. My answer is to act like one and the rest will follow.
You don’t need to fake being a coach. You have some idea about what you need to do:
- Ask curious questions
- Ask open-ended questions
- Let the client control the outcomes.
- Listen with your whole heart
- Ask about accountability for actions.
Nobody says that you have to do these activities well. Just do them. Put your heart into acting like a coach and then you will be one. The key word is ACT. ACT is the root word of ACTION. DO something and the rest will follow.
I don’t just make this stuff up. No matter how much you study coaching, train on coaching, write about coaching, or claim to be a coach, you are NOT a coach unless you actually coach. The verb COACH is part of being a noun COACH.
The International Coach Federation has worldwide standards for the certification process. To be an ICF Certified Coach, you must experience coaching. The minimum amount of experience required is 100 hours. To be a Master Coach requires 2,500 hours of documented experience. For the ICF, learning requires doing.
The biggest challenge you face is the first step; the first little bit of acting like a coach. At Ultimate Coach University, we work to make that a positive experience from the very beginning. You get to experience coaching at our three-day launch program. As part of the process, you get immediate feedback from your client and from the faculty who are cheering you along. By the time you leave your coaching launch workshop, you will have already started acting like a coach.
Are you interested in learning more about launching your coaching practice or building your company’s coaching culture? We have Launch Workshops in Salt Lake City in March and Dallas in May. You can read about what you get during the launch at the website or by sending an email to dana@ultimatecoachuniversity. We’d love to unlock your coach.