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Weekend Love, November Fourteenth.

iStock_000028624632Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

I call it “How to think Outside the Box.”  Dan Rockwell calls it, How to Eliminate Stupid Rules. I like his title.

Susan Cramm writes a very heady article about the differences between scarcity minded leaders and abundance minded leaders.  You’ll want to take some time to absorb her insights in Wanted: Leaders Who Use Their Powers for Good.

When most people think about life coaches, they get a picture in their head of somebody like Will Smith in Hitch.  The truth is, it’s more like this. Click here if the video isn’t showing.

As I think ahead to gorging myself over Thanksgiving, I have enough guilt that this article by Mark Sisson makes a lot of sense.  Give up on setting goals.  Go for immediate gratification. This is a quick read on exercise called  Why Getting Fit Isn’t the Best Exercise Motivation (and 10 Better Reasons to Move Today).

Most people won’t care about this, but I’m stuck on food things these days.  Maybe I’ve just adopted Texas.  Read about Chipotle Cranberry Sausage Balls.

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Weekend Love, October Thirty-First

We share everything, even Halloween treats

We share everything, even Halloween treats

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Just about everyone I know is trying to find additional sales this time of year.  Karyn Greenstreet gives you some quick ideas when she writes about 5 Smart Tips to Re-engage Inactive Customers.

The problem might not be the people around you.  It might be your expectations about the people around you.  What will you do now?  Dominique Christine explores this thought in her article on What to Do When You’re Feeling Disappointed in Your Relationship.

Seth Godin is one of the most concise writers I’ve encountered.  He talks about Entitlement vs. Worthiness and asks you to think about Halloween candy.  How this man’s mind works I’ll never know.

This is from the way back machine.  From top to bottom, the choice is yours.  We don’t always recognize that until it gets spelled out for us like Frank Sonnenberg did in his article, The Choice is Yours.

Halloween wouldn’t be complete without at least one article prompted by the holiday.  This one is basically pictures, so check out 26 Hauntingly Beautiful Photos of Abandoned Homes Across America, some of which might just be haunted.

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Weekend Love, October Twentyfourth

iStock_000059747146Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Leaders think differently from other people.  Eric McNulty identifies three key was in his article, Thinking Like a Leader: Three Big Shifts.

Want to change a habit?  Having trouble?  Robert Middleton provides so simple steps in his article, How to Develop New Success Habits – Part 2 .

Are you starting to dream about being wildly successful next year?  Got a plan?  Dan McCarthy has a powerful overview in 7 Elements of a Strategic Plan.

I sometimes find it hard to describe coaching without the dump truck answer to a question.  The International Coach Federation is helping with their new microsite, becomea.coach .  If you are interested in adding more coaching to your leadership style, give it a whirl.

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3 Absolutely Critical Tools for Goal Achievement

iStock_000024896784I think we all, at some point, look for that silver bullet solution.  You know the one makes all your problems melt away, everyone agree with you, and produces 110% of your wishes.  We all know it’s not there, but we still keep looking.

You keep looking for it because you think that, along the way, you will come across the next best thing to a silver bullet.  The solution is actually simpler to find but harder to execute.  Here are the three tools.

ME. Yes, you are the core of your answer.

  • What is it you want?
  • When you take away the pressure from friends, family, and business associates, what would make you happy?

The more you focus on this, the more likely you are to find it.  Alice in Wonderland’s Cheshire cat said to her that “If you don’t know where you are going, any old road will do.”  The opposite of those prophetic words is your answer.

MYSELF.  You are also the second most important tool for goal achievement.

  • What is it that you are uniquely qualified to do?
  • How will you get rid of everything else?

You can get distracted like a dog chasing squirrels.  You don’t mean to, but you end up spending your time on things that others can do as well (or better) than you.  Stop right there.  There is a piece of your goal that is yours and yours alone to do.  Everything else is just stuff.

AND I.  If you are the real tool to achieve your goal, admit it.  Take credit for your successes and take the blame for your failures.  Anything less is giving credit to random forces in your life.  You will never truly appreciate your success if you think it’s due to random luck.

If you are not sure of your answers, you might want to find a mentor or a coach.  Get someone to ask the hard and uncomfortable questions that will make you truly appreciate me, myself, and I.

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Weekend Love, October Seventeenth

A group of people in the shape of a collar shirt, a flash mob.

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Who wouldn’t like to get more done when working?  Torri Myler offers some hope with 6 Tips for Developing Stellar Productivity at Work.  Psst–she also mentions some great apps to help you in your quest that include a team tool and project management tool.

I sometime wake up and discover that I’ve gone back to a bad habit.  I sign and start over working on it.  Leo Babuta recently made a similar discover about one of his habits.  He write about I’m Returning to Single-Tasking. I really like the simple and yet profound steps to solve his issue.

When we were leading a direct sales team we occasionally talked about “Dressing for Success.”  Tom Pandola has a new take on that topic.  It’s not quite what you expect.  Please read Are Your Employees Dressed for Success?

What is life coaching?  This quick video from the International Coach Federation helps explain. Click here if the video isn’t showing.

 

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Weekend Love, October Ten

Look at your leadershipHere are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Want to solve problems or fix them?  Dan Rockwell explores the difference in his article, 10 Ways to Solve Real Problems.

What do you do when you notice others struggling?  Karyn Greenstreet gives some quick lists to recognize struggles and how you can help someone get moving.  Her article is on How to Help a Floundering Member.

Speaking of mistakes, Frank Sonnenberg makes a great case for changing your response to personal mistakes.  His article, The Biggest Mistake, Ever! would be a mistake to not read.

I’ve sometimes found that some people who say they want a coach really don’t.  Joanne Maynard asks a great question in her article Are You Coachable? 3 Questions to Consider.

BONUS:  Want the perfect movie for a night in?  Five Thirty Eight’s survey gives the top 25 all-time choices.  The male-female differences will make you smile.  Read Walt Hickey’s article, The 25 Most Rewatchable Movies of All Time.

 

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Weekend Love, October Three

Minolta DSC

Minolta DSC

Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Have you ever thought about the upside of pressure?  Douglas Conant makes a good case when he write about 3 Important Reasons Why Pressure Is a Privilege.

As a coach, I sometimes find new leaders have a hard time with this concept: Before you can Lead Others, you need to Manage Yourself. I’m happy to see Dan McCarthy agrees.

If you’ve recently been promoted or are working on one, this article from Katy Tynan is for you: Do You Have a Manager’s Mindset?

Dan Rockwell always says a lot with a few words.  His article on How to Hold People Accountable without using Authority is no exception.

I don’t think I’ve ever done this before in a Saturday post, but this one from Jon Acuff makes sense to me.  Watch the video and read The candle, the drug dealer & the last video I’ll ask you to watch in 2015.

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Weekend Love, September Twenty-Fifth

iStock_000004751590Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

Sometimes we don’t see ourselves as others see us (you think?).  Madeline Homan Blanchard offers some insights in My Boss Called Me a Drama Queen: Ask Madeleine.

Ever want to do something and couldn’t figure out what?  Life coach Jessica Sweet offers 5 Fun Things To Do When You Are Bored With Life.

I knew it all along: Babies Are Trying to Manipulate You Into Smiling at Them.

After watching many of the political arguments playing right now (am I being cynical?) I found it very refreshing that there is an organization devoted to helping leaders understand what it means to be truthful.  How are you doing on yours?  Lee Ellis, Founder & President of Leadership Freedom LLC, has his say when he writes On Leadership and Telling the Truth: Three Foundational Ways to Avoid Lying.

I spend a lot of time as a coach helping supporting people who want happiness in one form or another.  I couldn’t stop myself from reading this article written by Sherry Amatenstein on Vox news this last week: Everyone wants to be happy. Almost everyone is going about it wrong.

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Weekend Love, September Nineteenth

iStock_000057846572Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

I love the paradoxes we sometimes find ourselves in.  Tim Brownson explores one when he writes If You Want to Be Creative, Stop Trying to Be Creative.

If you want to cross the goal line, you need to set a goal.  Dan Rockwell fills in more details when he writes about 4 Secrets to Winning.

Coaches have a lot (I mean A LOT) of good communication skills at their disposal.  Micheline Germanos provides an insightful case study into applied coaching skills when she writes about The Coaching Case: A Matter of Trust.

From the archives:  You know it’s not as simple as Michael Hyatt writes, but it just might be.  Check out his article on How to Develop the One Trait Essential for Success.

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Weekend Love, September Fifth

iStock_000042621008Here are some of the great nuggets that I’ve found on the web recently. This handful of links takes you to tools or insightful content. Occasionally I’ll include one from my “save” file if it fits the mood.

When confronted with change, our first reactions range from head-in-the-sand to raging battles.  Susan Fowler asks three of the best questions for a situation like that when she writes about Thriving in the Midst of Change: Ask 3 Questions.

The opening paragraph starts, “Fascinating leaders ask questions. The rest are dullards.”  How can you not want to read the article?  Join Dan Rockwell as he answers that age-old question about How to Become a Fascinating Leader.

I know that I am not the poster child for exercise and fitness.  I do that stuff, and hate it.  Mark Sisson finally explains why.  If you are like me, you can read how you got to this state and ways to get out of it in his article on Why Getting Fit Isn’t the Best Exercise Motivation (and 10 Better Reasons to Move Today).

Bonus Video:  Brian Tracy and his daughter, Christina, discuss his new book , Find your Balance Point.  It’s a great discussion about the stuff we know but don’t do on topics like harmony, being grounded, and working from your passion.  Enjoy The Secret to Finding Balance in Your Life.

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